Upset, bad day

I wend to another funeral for a student in Tommy’s class. The student is/was a lot like Tom with multiple handicaps since birth. He is/was an 18 year old foster child, whose foster parents openly admitted that they took in for the money. The more severely handicapped the child is, the more money paid in taking care of the child, whether you adopted the child or not. One of the reasons you adopt a foster child is when the parents given up their rights to the child. If you don’t adopt them, then someone else could take and adopt the child.
Thomas being our biological child, we are not entitled to the same things these foster parents get. The foster parents complained to me about how the help they were getting was being cut back. They had an aide show up at their house daily and would stay at the house and take care of him until he went to bed. Did I ever get any kind of government aide at all? NO! Not even for family emergencies. All of this foster child’s medical bills were paid too, supplies that the child needed were paid for, and he also received money for clothes and gift. We still have had medical bills coming out our ears.
Twice while Tommy was in the hospital, so was this child. We never saw the foster parents at the hospital the whole time both boys were in there. When someone was there for him, it was a government paid aide. Another time while waiting in the doctor’s office waiting for an appointment, this family came in. We were surprise to find that they had taken in another foster child. The foster father said that they thought they were going to lose this boy, and if they did he was afraid he’d have to go back to work. So they took another child in for the money, just in case. And since then have taken in even more.
At the funeral yesterday, if you want to call it that, the family received guest for an hour at their church and then they had a little pray service. Dad wore short and tennis shoes, the foster family member were dressed more for a picnic or a reunion. I am still having a hard time with that and what they had put in the newspaper “He had many special needs, and his family lived their lives caring for and loving him with every fiber of their being.”